You go to a party or anywhere outside and you want everyone to like you, everyone to appreciate you sincerely.
Guess what, there is a simple magic for it and it doesn’t even take efforts.
Cool, Right ????
It is the expression one wears on one’s face.
SMILE. ????
Smile, you know increases the face value.
When you see somebody angry, he/she will have the most ugliest form of face.
It is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.
Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.’
That is why dogs make such a hit. They are so glad to see us that they almost jump out of their skins. So, naturally, we are glad to see them.
A baby’s smile has the same effect and we know if there is a baby in room smiling at you, you cannot resist to love him and take the baby in your arms.
Beware not an insincere grin. That doesn’t fool anybody. We know it is mechanical and we resent it.
I am talking about a real smile, a heartwarming smile, a smile that comes from within, the kind of smile that will bring a good price in the marketplace.
‘People who smile,’ he said, ‘tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a smile than a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment.’
James V. McConnell
Professor, University of Michigan
We learnt in one of the articles,
Be lavish in giving appreciation and miser in giving criticism.
Remember if you are leading a group,
Encouragement will always be much more effective teaching device than punishment.
The effect of a smile is powerful – even when it is unseen.
Your ‘smile’ comes through in your voice.
Now, when you smile your voice will be different when you do that and even the other person can feel that you are smiling and making the other person feel comfortable and
feel happy about the call.
You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.
Eliminate criticism from your system.
Give appreciation and praise instead of condemnation.
More clarity on Appreciation and Criticism is just a click away.
These things will literally revolutionize your life.
You will be a totally different man, a happier man, a richer man, richer in friendships and happiness – the only things that matter much after all.’
You don’t feel like smiling? Then what?
Practice simple things.
First, force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy.
So, every time when you look at the mirror, just remember to add that smile ????
‘Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.
William James
‘Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there ’
William James
You want happiness.
There is a simple way to find it.
Everybody in the world is seeking happiness – and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.
You Don’t Believe me, just Try it and write me if you are successful.
Let’s see one more powerful use of smile.
If you want to say No to someone, I would suggest you that, when you say No, say it calmly, take no tension, do not show any stress on your face, let your face have a Smile, but do not laugh or smile in such a manner the other person feels offended that you are ridiculing.
Just give a very calm, comfortable smile and say No, so that will not offend other person.
And by Power of your calmness and Smile they will realize that okay, maybe you are really serious, and you cannot really offer to help them, so that is why you are saying No. So, that calmness will show them that you cannot be controlled or persuaded to change your opinion but if they see slight stress, slight tension on your face they know that they can try to dominate, control you and then looking at
your body language and behavior, they will try to persuade you to say Yes, so say it calmly.
And the Power of Smile will not offend them and will also maintain the relationship needed.
Smiling releases endorphins, serotonins and other natural painkillers. Together, these brain chemicals make us feel good from head to toe. Not only do they elevate your mood, but they also relax your body and reduce physical pain.
“A smile is the shortest distance between
Victor Borge
two people.”
So before starting the conversation give a gentle smile to strangers, unknown people or even people who have some kind of misunderstanding and it will reduce the distance between you and them.
Just by giving smile, some people are able to captivate the hearts of others. We all like Smiling faces.
So smile has this positive impact of capturing people, healing them, connecting them and binding them.
Peruse this bit of sage advice from the essayist and publisher Elbert Hubbard – but remember, perusing it won’t do you any good unless you apply it.
Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal.
Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire, just as the coral insect takes from the running tide the element it needs.
Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual.
Thought is supreme.
Preserve a right mental attitude, the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly is to create.
All things come through desire and every sincere prayer is answered.
We become like that on which our hearts are fixed. Carry your chin in and the crown of your head high.
Smile ????????????
